Turning a blind eye to relationship red flags will cause problems in that eventually they’ll come back to haunt you. Protect yourself so you will not end up hurt and resentful.
- Physical and emotional abuse. If your relationship is wrecking your self-esteem or your boyfriend hurls insults and constantly makes you feel bad about yourself; if he leaves you feeling like you’re not heard; and you’re getting more criticism than praise, then it’s time to end it. A good relationship makes you feel respected and loved.
Get out at the very first strike when physical violence has surfaced. If your partner shoves, slaps pushes and kicks you and throw things at you, get out at once! Physical violence isn’t acceptable from either sex. If it happens once, it will surface again.
- Neglect and less attention. If all of a sudden he pays attention to every single thing in his life like emailing, texting, face-booking, American Idol or cleaning his garage just to keep himself from connecting with you during the week, you got problems.
If you haven’t heard from your love because he is busy with a lot of things, then he is not that into you anymore. If you’ve been together for a while and suddenly you can’t count on him to come and get you if your car breaks down, or to attend family or work events, then your relationship isn’t that solid.
- Lack or absence of intimacy. Loneliness can get a lot of us thinking after all who wouldn’t want intimacy? Often we’ll experience profound, intense, even life-altering moments with a person but then in time they fade and vanish. When your relationship has lost fire and you no longer feel emotionally connected with your partner or no longer feel the need for intimacy, it’s time to head to the front door.
- Constant bickering. Couples have problems and sometimes arguing becomes inevitable but when this becomes like an everyday affair, time to call it quits. When he begins to constantly find faults with you and the qualities that brought the two of you together are fading away; when you begin to see him not the same person you got into a relationship with, these can be signs that your relationship has gone sour. When arguments seem to be the only conclusion that any of your conversation can lead to, end the relationship now.
Loving someone doesn’t give guarantee you end up together for the rest of your lives. When you have broken up and reunited and you’re still having the same problems or different versions of the challenges, it’s probably best to end the relationship.